I’ve been holding off writing on this topic because I felt I couldn’t write about it from a neutral perspective. However, I hear more and more stories of wonderful women meeting men and it all going south after a short time and I wanted to say my piece.
What is happening in a man’s mind from the point of him being completely infatuated with a woman and him slowly losing interest down the line? It seems like the good girls can’t keep a guy’s interest for long. Why is that? Why do men prefer the girls who play games?
I understand men liking the chase, but after a point it gets old and nice girls start liking the guy and decide the time for games has gone. That’s when the guy starts losing interest. When he knows you like him. How messed up is that? I get extremely frustrated with this. Every guy will tell you they hate games when it’s actually quite the opposite. They need to constantly chase something. Their inner hunter comes out and you need to give them something to hunt.
That gets old quickly though and eventually girls stop running and there ends the “honeymoon” stage of a relationship (if you even got to that point). I noticed the girls who are more free-spirited tend to keep a man’s interest longer. Why you might ask? Is it because they go with the flow and don’t constantly try to immediately put a label on something? Is it because they might not have as much pride as other women and when their friends inevitably ask that annoying question, “So, are you guys together?” they don’t mind saying that it’s new and they are taking it day by day?
This brings me to my other point of friends ruining what doesn’t even have a chance to become a relationship. They all mean well, I know, but I also know that all you ladies reading this are sitting there nodding your head because you’ve been there. You’ve had your girlfriends ask THOSE questions:
- Are you guys an item?
- Are you exclusive?
- Is he your boyfriend?
- When will you hang out next?
- Do you hear from him every day?
- Does he text you sweet nothings at random times unprompted by you….
If any guy is reading this, you are probably laughing or thinking women think too much. Let’s be real, most men think women are crazy so, yeah. Back to what I was talking about. Friends. They tend to get in our heads. They unintentionally place expectations where there might not have been any. They cloud your judgement and make you second-guess what you thought was a great thing might not be so great after all. They don’t mean to do this, but let’s face it, it happens all the time. Next thing you know, you’re getting passive-aggressive with the guy and he gets fed up. Then you have no idea what when wrong?? Mhmm.
So drop the expectations and go with the flow.
Now another one of my friends told me, men like bitchy girls and frankly its kind of true! I see it with my guy friends. They like the girls who ignore them and forget to text them back and cancel plans because something better came along. Now, none of these guys are ready for any type of commitment so maybe that’s why those type of girls are attractive. No commitment. No expectations. See a pattern??
Men don’t like responsibility. They want to do things for you because they want to or because it was their idea. As soon as we mention that we want something they naturally almost go the opposite way out of instinct. It’s ridiculous but true. They don’t want to be nagged. Men and women function completely opposite to one another. It’s actually quite fascinating. Men are so in the moment with their feeling and actions and women are always reminiscing in the past, analyzing the present and planning the future. Exhausting right? Possibly for men but for women it’s our natural state.
So how do men and women come to be together you ask? Well, I have no idea, or I would actually be in a relationship right now. However, if I was going to speculate, I would say that for men it’s more of a timing thing. When they feel like they are ready to settle down, it’s not a matter of finding that perfect girl but the girl who is convenient. Women are opposite. We are on a constant quest to find Mr. Right and often times Mr. Right isn’t ready right then. So we complain there aren’t any good men out there and continue on our journey. Eventually, everyone will meet a person who is in the same stage of life as them and it will work out.
Here ends my rant for the night but I’m very curious to hear people’s thoughts on this. Men and women. So don’t be shy and speak your mind! We all want to know.