“I mean sheesh, it’s already been 2 weeks,” says best friends everywhere. But getting over someone is frankly easier said than done. Cuffing season has officially come to an end, and summer is on the horizon. So are you over your ex?
The average 20-something year old woman moves on in the length of said failed union divided by 2. “Science” says a year and a half. It all is subject to how invested you were in the relationship. It also has to do with who breaks up with whom.
In the case of getting broken up with on my birthday, my magic number happened to be 6 months. Thanks to technology (and the beloved cloud) no matter how many times I deleted pictures of my ex and me they popped back up. This particular time here these pictures came. Happy, smiling, close, and looking like there was no end to our bliss. I waited for the pang of discomfort. I braced for the cringe and the eye twitch.
Only 6 months! I was also in shock at the speedy recovery due to the devastation I experienced early on. Heartbreak sucks, lets face it. I kept my friends close during that time. Got back to prioritizing myself first. Traveled a bit. The basic break-up recovery plan. Yet no matter what I did before the 6-month mark I’d see one picture and break. Sadness comes in waves at the most inopportune times.
There is no exact formula for getting over someone. The one thing I have learned from the current ex is that clear cut is the way to go. Thanks to him completely cutting me off I was able to get over him exponentially faster than relationships before. For that, I am grateful.
Rules #1 through #3… whatever you do, don’t go back. Actually, make that rule #4 as well. Delete their number is rule #5. This rule is especially important for the drunken nights to come with your girls. Funnily enough, the thing we fought most about during the relationship is rule #6… delete all traces of the ex’s face. I always thought there was a more grown up way involving keeping old pictures. Frankly cold turkey delete is the best practice for all ended relationships.
The most important thing to remember is that life goes on. One of my good friends reminded me constantly that “everything happens for a reason.” I’m not in total belief of that. I do say that heartaches are blessings in disguise. It has been true in my situation anyway. How will you make the most of it?
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