I constantly find myself talking to people ABOUT the differences between men and women. I think it’s kind of hilarious that in the course of human kind’s existence we are still shocked at the vast differences between guys and girls’ way of thinking.
I think we have all had the miscommunication and the arguments when “our” way of thinking and “their’s” doesn’t link up. We get frustrated and angry and it often blows up into a much bigger deal than it should be. Men and women think on different wave lengths. So why can’t we just keep that in mind and not start fights and call each other names? Do we like the angst and the fighting? Is that what keeps relationships (friendly or otherwise) alive? Is that why we think so differently? To create passion and sexual tension? For the makeup sex? Or maybe just because if it was any different the world would be very boring. I like to go with the last option because frankly if someone doesn’t inspire some sort of passion in me I’m not interested.
I like to think of men and women as cats and dogs. Men are straight forward in what they want and often their intentions. They are easily pleased, love structure and are creatures of habit. That pretty much describes a dog. You give a dog food and love and they will be eternally happy. Women are a different breed, literally. We are often very fickle, definitely not easily pleased and understanding what we want can be an eternal task.
Women never directly tell you what they want. We just don’t think that way. We want you to just come up with it on your own. You are supposed to read our mind. That is why we often don’t take men seriously when they flat out tell us what they want or what their intentions are. We don’t operate that way and we can’t understand anyone else that does. For example, when most women hear “I’m not ready for a relationship” from a man, what we really hear is “it’s your job to show me why a relationship would be great for me and change my mind.” Challenge accepted! We want to feel like we are that special one that changes the bad boy but that never really happens. It’s more of a timing thing really. When “the bad boy” gets tired of his ways or he faces serious conciquences, he will change, for himself. However, don’t doubt for one second that the lady in his life at that time will credit herself with ultimately changing his ways.
Women are emotional creatures. We live in a constant mental fantasy that we sometimes mistake for reality. We also, can be very persistent in our pursuits. Men tend to see that as nagging but you guys have to admire the unyielding devotion to what we want to achieve. Men will often give in to the “constant nagging” and we see it as a victory. That just tells us that our tactics work. Men look at it as a victory in not being nagged. Both of our thinking is so off base but life goes on.
Another difference between most men and women is the way we communicate and handle situations. Men tend to internalize most things and often times you have to pry out what’s wrong with them with the jaws of life and you usually get an “I’m fine” back. Women are the opposite. We like to talk about every little thing and communicate everything to death. We try to not be dramatic but any little budge and we spill all of our problems to anyone that will listen. So men get frustrated with forced conversations and women get frustrated when men don’t communicate. Women need to know when to let go of an argument. We often wount budge because we know what’s best based on our womanly intuition but that just shows that women might have a bigger ego then men. One thing I must say is that a woman’s intuition is pretty spot on and we should listen to it more. Instead, we often over analyze and over think situations until we convince ourselves otherwise.
I think the key to coexisting better is by understanding the differences between men and women and accepting them. We are different in almost every way but somewho it works. Being mindful of one another and that we are all different in the way we act, communicate, handle situations and think is key. By learning to let go of pride we can squash most arguments and keep a light heart in all matters.